3 Things I'm Unlearning Right Now
This weekend reminded me of how important it is not only to enjoy the moments but also to reflect on how I’m showing up in my life—as a mom, a wife, a woman, and a person healing from past beliefs.
The Shower Epiphany
Some of my most humbling reflections happen when I’m taking a shower. I know it may sound weird to some people, however, for me it’s literally refreshing to think about what I’m grateful for and what needs to be released from my mind and spirit when I’m in the shower.
Over the weekend, we participated in our first Cousins Day field day event as well as other engagements on a busy Saturday. When you are a parent of 3, in sports, you are always busy attending some sporting event. This particular weekend, my husband and I split up to make both events happen like we usually do. When it comes to family outings, I am very impressed that our plans made it out of the group chat and came to fruition. We had so much fun setting up the games, cooking on the grill, listening to nostalgic songs that took the adults back to their childhood, and the teenagers embraced the beauty of great music (if you are an 80s-90s baby, you know). Naturally, when I’m hanging out with family, I’m the fun one, so I did what I am accustomed to doing and made sure we had a great time.
Learning to Delegate
A good time was had so badly that I lost my voice, my body was sore, and I need one day to recoup from being too entrenched in the field games that I haven’t performed like that since my teens and twenties. Even my kids were like, “Mom, I didn’t know you could run like that”. Neither did I, baby! When I got home and was settled, I jumped in the hot shower for the night. It had been calling my name all day after being outdoors for hours. When I got in the shower, deep thoughts started to commence as I recalled my day, how grateful I was for having a family that loves, supports, and connects organically. Then I began to think about all the chores and tasks that weren’t done due to other engagements, and it made me think to myself, “Girl, didn’t you set goals at the top of the year to delegate?” Yup! I sure did. And there I was standing in the shower, beating myself for not completing several tasks that If I had delegated to someone else, I wouldn’t be condemning myself right now for having a great day. Right then, in that moment, I had to check myself and my limiting beliefs.